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Post by confused heart on Mar 6, 2007 1:22:37 GMT -5
well i'm dating this guy and I really care about him a lot and I think a part of him cares about me too, but I don't think he really wants to be with me. It's like I'm some kind of placement or something till someone better comes along. Worst thing is all was going great then an old friend from his past came back. It's good that she did, but now it feels like things have changed between me and him. I know he has feelings for her, so I'm thinking he's going to breakup with me to be with her. I feel like a horrible person because part of me wishes she had never came back into his life because I know he'd rather be with her than me and it makes me sad. I don't want to lose him, but what if I already have? He means the world to me, but what if I don't to him? I know he cares, but I wonder just how much he would do for me. I want things to work so I'm hanging in there, but I don't know how much more pain I can go through for him. I hear of others going through this and don't see how they can. It's killing me inside not knowing from one day to the next if he's going to dump me or not. I really don't know what to do.
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Post by maria on Mar 6, 2007 9:25:34 GMT -5
Hon, it's seems like you are jealous. Yet ask yourself this, is there really anything to be jealous off?you are the one he is with not her, if he wanted to break up with you he would do that a while ago yet he is still with you, means he wants you not her. My advice is if you love him then trust his love or if you don't trust him, means you are not in love with him but hanging in to him course he is your boyfriend and you afraid that no one else will wanna be with you. Ask yourself this, do you really love him? or are you hanging in to him course you are a afraid no one else will want you? look if he picks her over you, it's not your loss but his, unless you are not in love with him but just hanging into him course you are a afraid no one else will want and that way he does you a favor not to go threw this again. If you care for him then you need to trust him to do the right thing, if he is in love with you then no worries he will be with you, you don't do nothing course if you do, you may risk the chance of losing him. However what you can do, is talk to him about your worries, don't keep it in you or it will cous more pain then anything else. Have faith then he will do the right choice, if he is smart enough, besides if he choices her over you then it's his lost hon, not yours, he is lucky to have you now. Think about this, this way if he choices her over you then he will envy the next guy you Will be with, course that guy will have you. Just give it time, if the problem doesn't go away then you are welcome to come back here and me or anyone else will be glad to help you.
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