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Post by Ryo of the Desert on May 21, 2006 10:13:07 GMT -5
I have a friend who's about a year younger than me.We're really great friends but she does some things that I don't like,one being cutting herself.I want her to stop but I'm not sure how to approach her for this problem,or how to ask her out.So,there's my problem.
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Post by darkb4lightt on May 22, 2006 9:59:18 GMT -5
Well, I think that it's a little hard to give advice here without knowing any details. But I'll try my best. If she's cutting herself and she's seriously doing some damage, you need to tell someone. Like her parents or a teacher would see to it that her parents are notified. Yes, she may get mad at you but that's a risk worth taking when you consider the fact that her life may be in danger. And, even if it isn't, she still needs help before it gets any worse.
If she gets mad at you for saving her life, then that's her problem and not yours, I'm sorry to say.
And as for asking her out, I don't know that this would be the type of person that I would recommend dating. I'm sure she's nice and all that jazz and I know that no one is perfect, but it sounds like she needs to do something for herself before she can really bring someone else into her life.
I think all you can do is just be her friend before you get emotionally involved any further.
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Post by Sarah on May 22, 2006 10:39:39 GMT -5
Ryo, my best advice would be talk to her parents or someone about what she's doing. They'll be able to get her the help she needs to stop. You should sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel and that you don't like what she's doing. You need to be honest with her. Tell her you care to much about her and don't want to see her hurting herself in anyway. She might get a little mad, but you might also get through to her; it's something you'll never know.
Sometimes it takes a good friend for us to see the light, I know from experience. I got mad at my friends when they found out in high school that I wasn't eating and then they comforted me about it, but in the end I listened to him: after yelling at my friend Candy for blabbing and telling the guy I like, who was a friend of mine. Like I said in the end I listened to him(more than I did the rest of my friends) So maybe she'll listen to you.
As for the asking her out part, just do it. Tell her how you feel about her and that you want to be more than just her friend. Though I would let her get better before going out with her, just let her know you care.
You don't want to go through life wishing you had told her do you? I made a mistake like that in high school and I don't want you to end up with any regrets like I have. I was depressed in high school and did a lot of stupid things I wish I hadn't and didn't do a lot of things I wish I had.
Just give her some time to get her life together, but tell her how much you care for her; hopefully she'll understand and if you truly care about her then you'll be able to wait till she gets her life together first.
Hope this makes some sense, I think I ramble a little to much.
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